Updated: Nov 9, 2022
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It sucks when people react negatively to something they are unfamiliar with.
It sucks even more when they don't even bother listening to you, your ideas, and/or opinions.
You'll know how frustrating it'll be when you've already anticipated the outcome. Yet, you're still going to talk to these people about it.
So I am here today to help you deal with people who fear things they don't understand.
But first, there are 2 things you would need to know before getting into situations like these again. They are:
Although it can likely ease the tensions between you and the person you are talking to, it is not 100% guaranteed to work.
We have to consider their personality as a whole if:
There is stress currently going on in the conversation
Any other different factors that can't be explained, which you may not know of, and should not be assumed
Let's get started.
I want to start things off with a story about the time when I transferred to a new school after community college.
At the time, I had recently bought a onewheel to get around a massive school campus when it was still fairly new on the market and unfamiliar to people in 2017, unlike today.
And even though I got around campus in just a few minutes, there were people I'd upset other than the campus police.
For instance, a librarian stopped me at the entrance when I was getting off my onewheel in front of one of the libraries at my school:
Librarian: You can’t bring that in here.
Librarian: You can’t bring that [onewheel] in here. You gotta lock it up.
Me: Umm... Okay??
Now what did I do wrong here?
Well, other than the fact that I should've stood my ground (but couldn't because I was still building my mindset, so my confidence wasn't there yet), the first problem was I wasn't mirroring her words.
When you mirror someone's words, the perception of the person (or people) you are talking to gives them the impression that you understand them.
It's much like mirroring body language (except in situations where you don't want to escalate the conflict).
The thing you don't want to be doing is using different words that have a similar meaning. That will lead to misconceptions and have them subconsciously think, "No, you don't understand me because you can't grasp my viewpoint."
What I've just explained is a minor problem that leads to my second problem, which I identify as the primary problem: miscommunication.
From the librarian's viewpoint, she was communicating in the form of actions while I was operating in the form of logic, which communication is not compatible with my brain.
At this point, you're most likely wondering or asking me what kind of jargon I'm talking about. That is what we'll dive into in the next section.
The 6 Ways of Dealing With People Who Are Afraid of the Unknown
Identifying the Preference of Communication for Each Person
Dealing with people that react negatively to things they are unfamiliar with, considered as neophobia, is very frustrating for most of us.
I've seen Facebook posts back in the day where people shared their onewheel stories about how they had trouble bringing it into certain places. An airport was a notorious place because security would say it looked "dangerous," the battery might be a "bomb," etc.
Luckily, there is a system called the Process-Communication Model, or PCM for short, which you could use to identify the type of communication the person prefers.
6 types of personalities and communication styles reside in all of us. But we prefer sticking with only one, since communicating using the other 5 can typically cause distress to us or other people.